One of my favorite scenes from movies is the tango scene from Scent of a woman. Apart from the tremendous presence and character that Al pacino brings to the scene , it is memorable for his words to the woman who hesitates to dance as she does not know tango.It is not like life, he says, "if you make a mistake you start from tango one".

Would nt it be nice if we all got one, just one option in our life time to go back and restart from a chosen moment in our past to "undo" and redo? But then, would we behave differently if we did not have the wisdom of hindsight? Would it be any fun at all if all the people in our lives did not exercise the same option at the same time? What fun would it be for me to go back and be twenty among today's twenty year olds?

In life there are no second chances. You have got to always get everything perfect the first time and every time and this is particularly true of relationships. Since no one is perfect, i suppose the best way one could achieve this is by starting afresh each day, not take people for granted and learn our lessons from each mistake. After all we may not be able to change the beginnings but surely we can control the way things can end?

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3 Responses
  1. Mahadevan Says:

    I always believe that the best lesson we can learn is from our own or others' mistakes. When somebody makes a mistake and tries to explain, we should enocurage them to explain their mistakes instead of shouting them down, or else, we would loose the opportunity of learning a lesson.

  2. Usha Says:

    Life has to be lived prospectively but it lessons are learnt retrospectively - which is why we never get a chance to undo and redo. I guess the ebst is to learn from every expereince and try to be careful the next time. I comepletely agree about giving people the room to explain and not judge preemptively.

  3. Anonymous Says:

    I have also wondered if we just move from one moment of time to another as if ina journey and can actually get back to a certain phase of our life if we knew how to go back. But I guess we would still behave the same way without the experience of hindsight ( after all at each point in our lives we try to do our best under the circumstances)