tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post114896457709715107..comments2023-10-09T18:12:29.276+07:00Comments on Agelessbonding: Clive AvenueUshahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00179239922869639391noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-1151185013766494682006-06-25T04:36:00.000+07:002006-06-25T04:36:00.000+07:00i'd be glad to relieve tilo of the book if he coul...i'd be glad to relieve tilo of the book if he could loan it to me.Hip Grandmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16891699611146003601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-1150990696063250482006-06-22T22:38:00.000+07:002006-06-22T22:38:00.000+07:00I'll mail it to anyone who wants to read if. have ...I'll mail it to anyone who wants to read if. have been dying to get it off my hands.trishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02896403156237442180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-1150925699519666032006-06-22T04:34:00.000+07:002006-06-22T04:34:00.000+07:00i would like to read the book.i do hope that it is...i would like to read the book.i do hope that it is not out of print.<BR/>padmaHip Grandmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16891699611146003601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-1149653073410197792006-06-07T11:04:00.000+07:002006-06-07T11:04:00.000+07:00Dear Rational Fool,You did not get my point at all...Dear Rational Fool,<BR/>You did not get my point at all - it is completely ok to not drink water abroad and to err on the side of caution. But why ask the locals every two hours, when a particular glass of water in a particular restaurant is safe? How the hell does the local know? Are we supposed to go around sipping water in every restaurant before you guys visit? You either drink mineral water everywhere or drink the local water. Why do you need to ask such a stupid question?<BR/><BR/>Also interesting how you assumed the person I referred to , as being "an NRI woman". I never made any gender reference.Wild Reedshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02527978162691178676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-1149217253095523422006-06-02T10:00:00.000+07:002006-06-02T10:00:00.000+07:00Ravi: HM. I hope so!Mahadevan:I agree that the dil...Ravi: HM. I hope so!<BR/><BR/>Mahadevan:I agree that the dilemma is only for the first generation. Their children have no such problems as India is a foreign land to them and the question of where to live doesn't arise at all.<BR/><BR/>Orchid: Welcome and hope you have a good time in Bangalore - the weather turned beautiful just when you came. :).<BR/><BR/>GuNs:I am not sure that those who leave India see all the good points we have. Actually the contrary. And the things they miss in india are slowly disapperaring as we move to a coke and burger culture.<BR/><BR/>Passerby55:To return or not can be their choice. It only gets my goat when they grumble endlessly about India and do nothing to change anything.<BR/>YOu will enjoy the book, I hope.<BR/><BR/>And BTW, I must add this. The book is not about non resident Indians. It just so happens that the main character has just returned from higher studies in the US and decides to go back after all the frustrating experiences. But the book is more about life in Chennai and what a delightful book!Ushahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00179239922869639391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-1149161439714713962006-06-01T18:30:00.000+07:002006-06-01T18:30:00.000+07:00hi Usha,NRI: everyone calls "NON returning Indians...hi Usha,<BR/><BR/>NRI: everyone calls <BR/>"NON returning Indians"<BR/><BR/>Its true, life is much easier on the other side of the Globe, but trust me all MISS INDIA ones they step out of it...<BR/><BR/>they may complain, but somewhere they are aware, their roots lie here, and many do return because roots are always safe in their own soil...<BR/><BR/>Its a good post, i enjoy your writing. I will read CLIVE AVENUE<BR/><BR/>thankyou.passerby55https://www.blogger.com/profile/17788718555377390569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-1149137314661343902006-06-01T11:48:00.000+07:002006-06-01T11:48:00.000+07:00All that is green is not grass !! [:-D] Sorry for ...All that is green is not grass !! [:-D] Sorry for that sloppy quote but I agree with your point on that issue. We only SEEM to think the grass is greener. When I was in school, I longed for the freedom of college, when I was in college, I hated the pressure and the competition and longed for the independence of working. Now I am working and I long to go back to school and do it all over again !!<BR/><BR/>-PeAcE<BR/>--WiTh<BR/>---GuNsGuNshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16465447014985870946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-1149129033917229552006-06-01T09:30:00.000+07:002006-06-01T09:30:00.000+07:00Usha, Thanks for recommending the book. I live on ...Usha,<BR/> Thanks for recommending the book. I live on the other side and always felt the "grass was greener" but right now I am in Bangalore for a few months and hey I am not complaining at all. This is home and it just feels right.<BR/><BR/>http://d-orchid.blogspot.comBy Deepa and Supriyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07747804542943614606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-1149059920431193232006-05-31T14:18:00.000+07:002006-05-31T14:18:00.000+07:00Taller, greener grass or not, I know I'm not gonna...Taller, greener grass or not, I know I'm not gonna be am'bush'ed here. That's a safe thing, isn't it? ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-1149055313050289762006-05-31T13:01:00.000+07:002006-05-31T13:01:00.000+07:00Visi: There are some times when day to day life is...Visi: There are some times when day to day life is so hard, the grass seems greener almost everywhere else that HERE. But then you come out of the house, smell the familiar smells, smile at familiar faces and hear your language spoken and someone tells you at 10 a.m or 2 p.m or any odd time " you don't look very fine. come and drink some coffee and let us have a chat". Then life doesn't seem so bad. You feel whatever it is you BELONG here.<BR/><BR/>Preeti: I guess the choices are determined by ones experiences and priorities. A good book, you will enjoy it. Publisher:Penguin<BR/><BR/>Kishore: it is nice to hear this from someone like you who has the choice and the qualifications to seek greener pastures outside. We need some of the creamy layer to stay here to make the India story happen.<BR/><BR/>Vaish:Je suis totalement d'accord avec toi. In case you do not find the book, just let me know. Will get it and pass it to mom for onward transmission. Else. You can wait till DEC. It was Shibs who actually gave me the book.Her mom just could not stop smiling throughout the book, it seems.<BR/><BR/>Wildreeds: I understand the fear about safe drinking water but when the kids ask for peanut butter and jelly sandwich I think it is a big mistake bringing them to grandma's house on a holiday. And when they complain about the crowd and the noise - a billion people is a lot of population. Tough to get rid of a few millions overnight to make it easier for returning Indians! It might be interesting if you wrote a post on some of these experiences of yours. When someone goes out and come back, they notice things we ourselves have become immune to or accepted long ago. And when they are pointed out it is always fascinating.<BR/><BR/>Rational Fool: Enjoyed the poem - hope i get to do some of them once in my life time even if never at the same place. I am a bit old fashioned in the sense i prefer to enjoy each place for its special flavour, sounds and smells rather than have the best of all together in one place or in all places. But I guess that is the direction in which the Globe is headed.Ushahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00179239922869639391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-1149019366259561112006-05-31T03:02:00.000+07:002006-05-31T03:02:00.000+07:00wild reeds said, "Sweety, it's the same water you ...<A HREF="http://www.blogger.com/profile/18415969" REL="nofollow">wild reeds</A> <I>said, "Sweety, it's the same water you were drinking for 21 years before you scooted off..."</I><BR/><BR/>...but it's not! You may have spent 21 years in India, but it's not necessarily true that you have been exposed to all the bacteria and viruses that may lurk in the water that you drink. <BR/><BR/>Individuals differ in their sensitivity and immunity. I have known many friends and family members, who have lived all their lives in India, take drinking water from home when they go out, haven't you? Why are you upset with this hapless woman - just because she's an NRI? Really, tell me what'd <EM>you</EM> prefer - err on the side of caution, or risk spending half your precious vacation between the bed and the toilet?The Rational Foolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06573904887494797998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-1149011423930826522006-05-31T00:50:00.000+07:002006-05-31T00:50:00.000+07:00The grass may be greener in the US, but sadly, the...The grass may be greener in the US, but sadly, there are no tamarind trees :( <BR/>I really wish there'd be no tradeoffs in such things. In the interest of conserving your comment space, more on what I dream of <A HREF="http://therationalfool.blogspot.com/2006/05/imagine1.html" REL="nofollow">here</A>.The Rational Foolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06573904887494797998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-1149009847909427422006-05-31T00:24:00.000+07:002006-05-31T00:24:00.000+07:00@I suppose they should just stop discussing their ...@I suppose they should just stop discussing their vague ideas of returning for such discussions only end up highlighting the difficulties of living in India which we do not seem to notice so much and take in our stride and adjust ourselves to until they are pointed out to us.@<BR/><BR/>Absolutely! I serve as city-guide to my America-alternate-year-returning friends. I love them a lot, and in the joy and exuberance of being with each other, the long peregrinations about """India""" - her infrastructure, slums, flyover, shopping malls, ta ta ta ta get overlooked. Then each time we go out they ask "Is the waaderrr safe to drink?". I feel like saying "Sweety, it's the same water you were drinking for 21 years before you scooted off to do your post-grad and never came back. You decide." But I just smile and nod sagely, and say "Yes it is".<BR/>:-)Wild Reedshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02527978162691178676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-1149007146278694432006-05-30T23:39:00.000+07:002006-05-30T23:39:00.000+07:00I guess we all make our choices and do what we thi...I guess we all make our choices and do what we think will make us happiest.<BR/><BR/>I am dying to read the book now! :)Vaishnavi Tekumallahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16842568315665641921noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-1149002860249724732006-05-30T22:27:00.000+07:002006-05-30T22:27:00.000+07:00>>worry about the "Quality of life" People invaria...>><I>worry about the "Quality of life"</I> <BR/><BR/>People invariably tend to form stereotypes in mind. While they think like that, I might think, in case I have to settle down in US would I adjust to the isolated lifestyle, colder conditions, ageing parents, children's education, teen-age cultures etc. <BR/><BR/>I've lived in the US for some time on an official stint. Somehow, (strangely enough) I'm feeling far happier being in India, despite what US has to offer me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-1148984771554891052006-05-30T17:26:00.000+07:002006-05-30T17:26:00.000+07:00So real... But thats what those NRIs think... but ...So real... <BR/>But thats what those NRIs think... but we people clearly know that there is beauty in staying near home...:)... <BR/><BR/>Now on the hunt for this book..Preethihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17503231911860660064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-1148970647594789672006-05-30T13:30:00.000+07:002006-05-30T13:30:00.000+07:00interesting - truthfully i think the grass isnt gr...interesting - truthfully i think the grass isnt greener anywhere we just think soVisithrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14525994382867482657noreply@blogger.com