tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post8674842625575045437..comments2023-10-09T18:12:29.276+07:00Comments on Agelessbonding: Pati, patni aur WHOUshahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00179239922869639391noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-89089201700945184052011-05-23T15:34:36.445+07:002011-05-23T15:34:36.445+07:00Unfortunately, all daily soaps are made on this co...Unfortunately, all daily soaps are made on this concept. Until I watched such movies or serials, it was hard for me to digst this extra marital affairs. The first one was that Shanti/Swabhiman when I was just into college. Cheap thing. South Indians movie made on this are hit, so doesnt this convey a incorrect msg? The most crappiest dialogue from a movie I heard. Woman can share anything with another woman except her Mat(Mat could be replaced with Kurlon Mattress as well) :-)Veena Shivannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05732107171313241385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-27595408136890192532010-11-23T19:00:39.781+07:002010-11-23T19:00:39.781+07:00IHM:I suppose I understand what all the noise was ...IHM:I suppose I understand what all the noise was about now that you explain it this way. Co-habitaion outside matrimony might probably have describe it better. mmmUshahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00179239922869639391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-72239470597443765812010-11-23T12:52:41.983+07:002010-11-23T12:52:41.983+07:00I think the main objection against the use of a te...I think the main objection against the use of a term was, it was not 'Legal Language'. Legal Language has to be totally without judgment. <br /><br />The word should convey only what it means literally. Right, wrong, honorable, shameful should not be implicit/indicated/hinted at/etc. It has to be precise. <br /><br />Like we say 'Illegitimate child' not 'bastard', or 'sex workers', not gigolo or whore.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-47924349431361936152010-11-21T21:23:36.153+07:002010-11-21T21:23:36.153+07:00Sangi: I don't think the judge used the term w...Sangi: I don't think the judge used the term with any moral value attached to it. They just used a term that has been in common usage in society for this kind of co- habitation.Ushahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00179239922869639391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-75381444643423419832010-11-18T10:56:57.958+07:002010-11-18T10:56:57.958+07:00Words pack a punch. And while the people in the p...Words pack a punch. And while the people in the picture have chosen to do something I would personally not, I don't think judging them and name calling will solve anything. Society with all the allowances it gives to bigger evils like caste or gender discrimination should be the last one to hold anyone in contempt!<br /><br />I don't think disrespect to a woman is okay in any way, shape or form. Whoever she is. You have got to admit that there is a negative connotation to the word.Sangithahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15131724168098054004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-3565204891163457592010-11-08T10:47:54.335+07:002010-11-08T10:47:54.335+07:00Hipgran, Sue: The case in question was not one of ...Hipgran, Sue: The case in question was not one of a live-in relationship. It was a classic case of a man taking a second woman and then leaving her refusing to pay her maintenance.<br />I am not equating live-in arrangements with cases such as this one. That is a totally different choice and people in such a relationship are independent, aware of their rights and i wonder if they will ever need to court seeking maintenance from their estranged man.<br />The cases I am talking about involve women who are dependent and many times exploited by their patrons. These are definitely cases of the man 'keeping' them and then'dropping' them.Ushahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00179239922869639391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-90006902327834030482010-11-07T22:01:16.478+07:002010-11-07T22:01:16.478+07:00I agree with you HG. There is a very definite dis...I agree with you HG. There is a very definite distinction between the chinna veedu woman and a woman in a live-in relationship and certainly the latter can never be called anybody's keep.hillgrandmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01805698959846687562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-77906096557064059252010-11-05T00:27:38.685+07:002010-11-05T00:27:38.685+07:00the 'other woman' syndrome was quite commo...the 'other woman' syndrome was quite common till the early 20th century and the man in question was bound to pay for her upkeep and was therefore his kept. It was like dining out occasionally and women did not seem to mind as long as it did not interfere with their rights as the wife. even if she did mind the older ladies of the household hushed them up having experienced the trauma themselves. <br /><br />The live in relationship between two consenting adults is different. Very often the couple agree to the arrangement on a trial basis planning to walk out if it does not work. People are afraid of commitment and responsibility that is part of a marriage deal. 'Keep' does sound derogative particularly when a supreme court judge says it. as if the relationship does not deserve any respect. i for one feel that a person's choice ought to be respected even if not accepted.Hip Grandmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16891699611146003601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-87153849758790964882010-11-04T18:36:00.338+07:002010-11-04T18:36:00.338+07:00DR.Antony: If the term is offensive we need to add...DR.Antony: If the term is offensive we need to address the underlying unkind practice and not just relabel it and make it sound ok.<br /><br />Sunita: You are so right. I have noticed that too.Ushahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00179239922869639391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-792212214571471532010-11-03T17:39:21.064+07:002010-11-03T17:39:21.064+07:00The status of the woman who is a "keep" ...The status of the woman who is a "keep" does not change if its called by any other word. Most often, its the woman who is blamed and stigmatised. Its ironical that the offical wife has no hesitation in blaming the "keep" for wreaking havoc in her marriage .... but is quite tolerant towards the betrayal of her husband who is supposedly her companion and partner.Sunithanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-15470537974791905872010-11-02T23:08:59.490+07:002010-11-02T23:08:59.490+07:00I would say the word is unkind.
The court's u...I would say the word is unkind.<br /><br />The court's use might have been inadvertent.After all,every one uses the word , and listeners understand the meaning.<br />Some practices were there since long, and it even carried some respect if the man involved was the king himself or so. It is rumour that the king used to go to the house of the woman who appealed to him, and then they were given the name'Thnkachi",and along with came respect an wealth.<br /><br />Times have changed.Practices remain.We are just getting offended without reason.dr.antonyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16191095888228061156noreply@blogger.com