tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post3632019038789749565..comments2023-10-09T18:12:29.276+07:00Comments on Agelessbonding: Aunty and her OwnerUshahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00179239922869639391noreply@blogger.comBlogger43125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-83386907452634205342010-08-19T14:28:16.271+07:002010-08-19T14:28:16.271+07:00Hi...
hilarious blog entry..but why should ...Hi...<br /><br /> hilarious blog entry..but why should you keep a rule saying that a person below25 can call you aunty.<br /> Anyone above 18 is an adult & adults ahouldn't call you anyone else uncle or aunty.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-86202062758239080302010-07-26T15:55:52.837+07:002010-07-26T15:55:52.837+07:00I came across your blog thru random clicks.. love ...I came across your blog thru random clicks.. love it. Nice to read a blog by someone who is not a twenty something.. it is refreshing to read something different here...<br />In my twenties I was called akka..and somehow the same kids' younger siblings call me aunty now..when I am 33!!!.. <br />I want to say that you have a great blog here...aunty :-) (Dont kill me)astatinehttp://amapuna.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-19316740958919821032010-03-24T09:51:54.137+07:002010-03-24T09:51:54.137+07:00This is called: Mardon Waali Baat.This is called: Mardon Waali Baat.CatGunHomehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14240093725180164656noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-1551479721650572702010-02-26T20:03:12.861+07:002010-02-26T20:03:12.861+07:00@Usha (minus the aunty) - I quoted you here
http:...@Usha (minus the aunty) - I quoted you here <br />http://sinusoidalscribbles.blogspot.com/2010/02/policeman.html <br /><br />:)DivSuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17329533323640575989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-53783079535178387402010-02-14T08:40:04.154+07:002010-02-14T08:40:04.154+07:00Usha ji, I don't know about you, but for me it...Usha ji, I don't know about you, but for me it feels awkward when men or teachers call me by my first name. I expect the teachers to call me by my last name because of their professonal capacity, and men because... I feel like I belong to my husband, and as I'm married now they should acknowledge that status by saying Mrs. Shah. <br /><br />Of course neither the teachers or the men do this since I live on the West Coast, but I wonder if these constructions were created to protect our boundaries, those things personal. I rather resent how everyone calls one another by their first name here... It's so different from the South(ern US).hijabiammahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00277357431698301667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-18955445136865755532010-02-11T21:24:50.985+07:002010-02-11T21:24:50.985+07:00NRImaami: As someone said in a comment earlier, I ...NRImaami: As someone said in a comment earlier, I think people start with 'aunty' as a safe option. And most of the time the addressee fumes inwardly but doesn't object. I think we should let it be known if we are ok with being addressed by the first name with or without ji.<br /><br />Ravi: I can understand youngsters feeling awkward about calling an older person by their first name but only until they are 20 or 25. Beyond that there should be no problem calling someone by their name with a ji suffix. safer and more appropriate.<br /><br />Bones: I can understand a 15 year old addressing a 30 year old as aunty but not a 20 year old. And certainly their was no need for AB jr. to call anyone aunty. He is not a boy anymore.<br /><br />Seren: Ya, She told me this once. But I think ppl who call her uncle need to have their ears (and heads)checked.<br /><br />Seema: Ya this is another thing that puzzles me. Men are not uncle until they have a paunch and a few gray hairs. Women are , the minute they have a baby!<br /><br />AS: Hahhahah. I guess you should tell them right away.Nip it in the bud!<br /><br />Raj: I see your point.And his father is attracted to a girl half of AB Jr.'s age in Nishabd and about his age in Cheeni Kum. So he is not sure who he has to call aunty. And I love the usage "Abhishek Bachchu" Much better than Bachchan Junior. <br /><br />Mridu: Ask them straight away when you meet them first. If they insist on aunty/ uncle Go ahead. else name with a JI suffixed or Mr /Mrs so and so shd work fine for both.<br /><br />Anisha: Thanks for the kind words. I got to see the electronic version of the page where this post appeared. Thanks, It looked nice.<br /><br />IHM: Ya sometimes you are so used to seeing someone addressed as aunty or rohan ki ma etc that you dont even know their real name. Or they are known as Sharma Aunty, Misra aunty etc.Unfair no. What is a name for then?<br /><br />The RF:Rose by any other name might smell as sweet cos it doesn't know its name is Rose. But we do, hence the trouble.<br />I found them equally offensive but Bachchu a bit more because he is expected to know better.<br /><br />WA:At twenty it offends you a lot more.<br /><br />Rachna: hahahha. I suppose that was Ghar ka malik. Here it is my yejamanru (master/owner).<br /><br />Parvathi:Yes I got up one morning about 10 years afo and realised that I had graduated from ushakka to ushamma!<br /><br />Sirpy: You don't even get to be anna before becoming uncle. That is unfair no! :)<br /><br />Hillgrandmom: I think Mr/Mrs/ Ms should become the norm or the -ji suffix and its regional equivalents for elders.<br /><br />Lively:Ya when there is a considerable age gap it doesn't bother you so much.<br /><br />Shankari:Ya I have heard this maami funda too from some people in Bangalore. I think it is some misconception they picked up watching Tamil films!<br /><br />Starry eyes: I think it is a carry over from a bygone era. The world around has changed but their thinking hasn't - In their imagination, the yejaman is still the decision maker lording over the people of his house.<br /><br />CW: ada kashtame. So tell him to call you akka no!<br /><br />Bala: This is what I find ridiculous - 30 year olds addressing 40 y.o as Uncle. Makes me wonder if they do it to feel younger.<br /><br />Banashri: Thank you for dropping by. It is not really a sense of insecurity but it somehow feels inappropriate to be called aunty by someone hardly a few years younger than yourself.<br /><br />Shakuni: If they must use a relationship ya, that seems better.<br /><br />Swaminathan: I can understand when your own nephews or nieces address you as Uncle/ aunty. But why a complete stranger like the salesman at the grocery store or the postman?Ushahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00179239922869639391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-9309467134494192172010-02-11T03:45:12.148+07:002010-02-11T03:45:12.148+07:00Marriages within relations, at times, create confu...Marriages within relations, at times, create confusion among the new members of the family. They relate me and call me as they think fit.Funny! I just tell them to call me by my name. Your post is an interesting thought. Thanks.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09877580706628944187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-87370229315461217692010-02-10T08:02:04.857+07:002010-02-10T08:02:04.857+07:00well, perhaps 'elder sister' or 'elder...well, perhaps 'elder sister' or 'elder brother' is more appropriate than first names.shakunihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272470102683228141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-78946351669661325212010-02-09T17:18:36.409+07:002010-02-09T17:18:36.409+07:00I read this in Bangalore Mirror on 09.02.2010. I c...I read this in Bangalore Mirror on 09.02.2010. I chose to visit your page on blogger just to say I liked it very much. If ladies feel insecure being called aunty, we poor early balding men feel awkward being addressed grand-pa. It is the way world desires to name others.Banashrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04210109443634901162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-76058082412398477932010-02-08T08:03:56.341+07:002010-02-08T08:03:56.341+07:00Well said.
The reverse is also true. Ladies in t...Well said. <br /><br />The reverse is also true. Ladies in their 30s calling men in 40s 'uncle'. One called me so by e-mail and I started my reply with 'sister' and there was no more 'uncl'ing.Wellingtonbalahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04960148185436265682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-65653167711830791052010-02-04T14:57:22.741+07:002010-02-04T14:57:22.741+07:00A friend of my husband's, who is 2 years young...A friend of my husband's, who is 2 years younger than me, called me mami the first time we met (and I was 24!). I could not stop laughing. Demanded that he call me by my name, but SouthIndianness steeped deep in his blood, he refused to do so!CWhttp://chronicworrier.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-57501263217118993482010-02-04T13:37:33.462+07:002010-02-04T13:37:33.462+07:00Yeah, I always resent that yejman is used in place...Yeah, I always resent that yejman is used in place of the man's name or title. How ridiculous. <br /><br />You know, with most people, women are not heard (except as hysterical, silly frivolous), not seen (except as objects), but when a man says the same thing, prompt action and response are the result, whether it is the 'lower' classes or the so-called upper. Blech.starry eyedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02821016011330573083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-20191348006903080722010-02-03T20:46:09.185+07:002010-02-03T20:46:09.185+07:00Amiable fill someone in on and this post helped me...Amiable fill someone in on and this post helped me alot in my college assignement. Thank you seeking your information.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-4605412405501334192010-02-03T11:19:09.167+07:002010-02-03T11:19:09.167+07:00My first time here - followed a link to this post....My first time here - followed a link to this post.<br /><br />I have been called Aunty ever since I got married at age 22! The weirdest is a neighbour of mine who must be at least 20 years older than me who always calls out loudly to me addressing me as Aunty! It sounds So weird that my mother took offence to it and asked her why she called me Aunty. To which she coolly replied that Aunty is English for Maami and thats how women refer to each other and address each other in South India. :D <br /><br />I had no comeback to that and even my mother was just flabbergasted!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-17304517712339626962010-02-02T16:39:29.894+07:002010-02-02T16:39:29.894+07:00It is out of habit and many people in india, the o...It is out of habit and many people in india, the ones older than 30 feel ok if they're aunty-ed or uncle-ed by kids. But the age gap in which you aunty or uncle someone is important. My husband's nephew calls me and him by name and it doesnt bother us one bit. He's 4 :)Livelyhttp://mypricelesslife.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-76673897531727914612010-01-31T23:32:30.084+07:002010-01-31T23:32:30.084+07:00I agree with Ugich Konitari--what you're calle...I agree with Ugich Konitari--what you're called doesn't really matter- it's more like when a child you once taught in nursery class comes with their child!! Now that <b>is</b> old, whatever they might call you :-)<br />But I think the respect bit is good, only maybe we should use the Brit system, with the Mr./Ms/Mrs tag?hillgrandmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01805698959846687562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-62832591982497043932010-01-31T01:25:40.885+07:002010-01-31T01:25:40.885+07:00You are perfectly right. Respect is hardly garnere...You are perfectly right. Respect is hardly garnered out of an internal feeling; it is more like an antiquated play to say the right thing.<br /><br />Needless to day, the society is already sensitized to this. Just that the fashion it has may seem different not wrong. Anyway, I am all of 24 years old and have been talked to like "Uncle, please pass the ball" by a bunch of college kids.The worst part is I dont even sport a beard. :)Sirpyhttp://themankeys.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-2526521945855990292010-01-30T18:05:39.561+07:002010-01-30T18:05:39.561+07:00Persons in their mid or late thirties calling wome...Persons in their mid or late thirties calling women in their fifties as aunty is funny.It is accepted that the way youth dress and look different over generations, but old are expected to be stereo typed over ages with their Zari sarees, judas and Ram Nam on their lips.I have seen people adding "Amma" once woman crosses fifty like, Suseelamma for P.Suseela and Janakamma for S.Janaki. It is insulting.Parvathihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12185826333440577723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-85433954978878922502010-01-30T12:37:49.272+07:002010-01-30T12:37:49.272+07:00I was working in Jharkhand for a brief period of m...I was working in Jharkhand for a brief period of my life- and there, once somebody asked me where my "malik" was. I was horrified!<br />Besides, I was not marrried at the time, so no "malik" anyway.Rachnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12237516640673368951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-85682245873894469802010-01-30T03:57:05.922+07:002010-01-30T03:57:05.922+07:00:) as a 20 year old I used to get called 'aunt...:) as a 20 year old I used to get called 'aunty' by teenagers just cos I was a married woman. I just used to stare back in disbelief. Now my teenager's friends me by my first and that throws me as well.<br /><br />As to the shopkeepers, salesmen etc calling customers aunty, that is so not right. AnnoyingWAnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-10160094412465189862010-01-29T23:23:04.577+07:002010-01-29T23:23:04.577+07:00"What's in a name? That which we call a r..."What's in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet" - Shakespeare, <i>Romeo and Juliet</i>, 1594 :)<br /><br />So, Usha, whom did you find more offensive, Abhishekh Bachchan or the mason?The Rational Foolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06573904887494797998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-78894159175998573242010-01-29T19:09:12.399+07:002010-01-29T19:09:12.399+07:00I call a lot of women Ms X or Ms Y - aunty is only...I call a lot of women Ms X or Ms Y - aunty is only for mothers of friends from school. <br /><br />I find 'auntyjee' is also sometimes used to taunt or insult. <br /><br />Some of my nieces and nephews call me by name, and now I realise why... :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-27103753950165086032010-01-29T18:37:38.741+07:002010-01-29T18:37:38.741+07:00Hi: Your blogs are something I love to read.
It w...Hi: Your blogs are something I love to read. <br />It would be grateful if you could give permission to publish your blogs in Bangalore Mirror, a Timesgroup publication. If you have any queries, pls mail it to anisha.rudranii@gmail.com or anisha.rudrani@timesgrup.com. You can call me on 9008152842.Anisha Rudranihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02571951295962658912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-51424553126066924342010-01-29T12:49:33.597+07:002010-01-29T12:49:33.597+07:00I'd prefer to call people who I don't know...I'd prefer to call people who I don't know by their names, but the flip side of this is that when I do, the very people stare at me or think I'm being disrespectful or "aping the West."<br /><br />I feel very uncomfortable, calling someone "aunty" or "uncle" especially when I'm acting in a professional capacity, but the truth is, most women want to be called that out of respect. <br /><br />Any suggestions on how to avoid these words without offending?Mridu Khullarhttp://www.mridukhullar.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974677.post-67008332817863507582010-01-29T12:36:01.197+07:002010-01-29T12:36:01.197+07:00Usha, I urge you to be more considerate to Abhishe...Usha, I urge you to be more considerate to Abhishek Bachu. One day he has to play the role of a teenager, the next day the role of a father of a 12-year old son played by his father in real life, the third day the role of a 25-year old in love and proposing marriage to the heroine who is his wife in real life... He must be one hell of a mixed up person, forever losing track of relationships. Is it surprising that he referred to a lady of his own age as "Aunty"?. I wouldn't be surprised even if he called her "Uncle".Rajhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09367344161081393779noreply@blogger.com